Is divorce and remarriage biblical for mental and physical neglect, including domestic violence other than adultery?

Psalms 141:4 Do not incline my heart to any evil thing, To practice wicked works With men who work iniquity; And do not let me eat of their delicacies. 9 Keep me from the snares they have laid for me, And from the traps of the workers of iniquity. 10 Let the wicked fall into their own nets, While I escape safely.

Proverbs 14:7 Go from the presence of a foolish man, When you do not perceive in him the lips of knowledge.

Proverbs 27:12 A prudent man foresees evil and hides himself; The simple pass on and are punished.

Matthew 2:13 Now when they had departed, behold, an angel of the Lord appeared to Joseph in a dream, saying, "Arise, take the young Child and His mother, flee to Egypt, and stay there until I bring you word; for Herod will seek the young Child to destroy Him." 14 When he arose, he took the young Child and His mother by night and departed for Egypt,

Matthew 10:23 When they persecute you in this city, flee to another. For assuredly, I say to you, you will not have gone through the cities of Israel before the Son of Man comes.

Matthew 18:15 "Moreover if your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother. 16 But if he will not hear, take with you one or two more, that 'by the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.' 17 And if he refuses to hear them, tell it to the church. But if he refuses even to hear the church, let him be to you like a heathen and a tax collector.

1 Corinthians 5:11 But now I have written to you not to keep company with anyone named a brother, who is sexually immoral, or covetous, or an idolater, or a reviler, or a drunkard, or an extortioner--not even to eat with such a person. 12 For what have I to do with judging those also who are outside? Do you not judge those who are inside? 13 But those who are outside God judges. Therefore "put away from yourselves the evil person."

Ephesians 5:11 And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather expose them.

2 Timothy 3:2 For men will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, 3 unloving, unforgiving, slanderers, without self-control, brutal, despisers of good, 4 traitors, headstrong, haughty, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, 5 having a form of godliness but denying its power. And from such people turn away!

In the ancient law of Israel, obedience was required to God's anointed king and to his kingship system. However, in 1 Samuel 18-30, King David fled from the murderous attacks of King Saul's envy. Yahuwah did not force him to continue to be obediently abused as a bride to an anointed king, as per ancient Israelite law, or to play the impossible game. 

Chapter 25 of 1 Samuel tells the story of how Abigail was not treated well by Nabal. Nabal acted stubbornly petty, and David wanted to kill him and his entourage, but Abigail successfully maneuvered around Nabal and protected his entourage.

Abigail did not blindly follow Nabal or follow his lead, but took the initiative to act voluntarily and protect her entourage. She also called Nabal wicked, crazy, and foolish, while she spiritually perceived David as God's anointed king.

Finally, Yahuwah's judgment caused the stubborn Nabal to die out, and Abigail was blessed to become David's wife. This is the template for the prophecy of Jesus' protection of women who are being physically and mentally abused during the Great Tribulation.

Conditions of Divorce in the Old and New Testaments

According to Matthew 5:31, we understand that sexual immorality is a cause for divorce. If we check 1 Corinthians 7:1-16, we find that divorce is also granted when an unbeliever leaves without permission. However, misunderstanding the meaning of Jesus' statement that sexual misconduct adulty is the only cause of divorce  in the New Covenant, there may be some women who are forced to live under house arrest like in some cult, and they cannot complain or leave their husbands but rather stay with their husbands even if they are abused physically or mentally.

The lesson of Matthew 5, in particular, is that even the lusts of the heart are considered adultery, and the pride of the Pharisees is shattered when Jesus condemns all mankind for being sinners and committing adultery in their hearts. The Pharisees thought that if they divorced and remarried, they would not be guilty of adultery under the law, but Jesus condemned them.

There will be those who have remarried repeatedly before coming to know Christ, and there is no need for those people to be forced to leave their current mate and return to their first mate after being found guilty of “fornication”. The Samaritan woman had been married to five men in the past, and it is likely that there were men with whom she was in a relationship at the time she met Jesus. Yet Jesus did not condemn the Samaritan woman. (John 4:18)

The gist of Jesus' teaching is that since we are all sinners and the forgiveness of sins is valid and the law is established through Jesus' atonement, we should all be humble enough to admit that we are all guilty of “fornication” at least in heart. That's what it means.

First of all, the New Testament Law of Christ is a great example of how to take the intent of the Law of Moses from the Old Testament era and treat it properly. And since there were too many men who were wicked at heart, who tried to find fault with the law, and who disregarded the authority of women by justifying divorce on petty reasons, Jesus intended to admonish those men that they should not divorce easily “to protect the rights of women” and that only cases of adultery would be pardoned. 

Under the Law of Moses, even women in foreign captivity were free to leave if they were subjected to physical or mental neglect or abuse without being given the necessities of life.

Exodus 21:7 "And if a man sells his daughter to be a female slave, she shall not go out as the male slaves do. 8 If she does not please her master, who has betrothed her to himself, then he shall let her be redeemed. He shall have no right to sell her to a foreign people, since he has dealt deceitfully with her. 9 And if he has betrothed her to his son, he shall deal with her according to the custom of daughters. 10 If he takes another wife, he shall not diminish her food, her clothing, and her marriage rights. 11 And if he does not do these three for her, then she shall go out free, without paying money.

Deuteronomy 21:10 "When you go out to war against your enemies, and the Lord your God delivers them into your hand, and you take them captive, 11 and you see among the captives a beautiful woman, and desire her and would take her for your wife, 12 then you shall bring her home to your house, and she shall shave her head and trim her nails. 13 She shall put off the clothes of her captivity, remain in your house, and mourn her father and her mother a full month; after that you may go in to her and be her husband, and she shall be your wife. 14 And it shall be, if you have no delight in her, then you shall set her free, but you certainly shall not sell her for money; you shall not treat her brutally, because you have humbled her.

Many Christians cite Malachi 2:10-16 about the inability to divorce, but this passage simply condemns the practice of a man taking an idolatrous foreign woman as his wife while divorcing a pure and devoted Israelite woman. Confirmation from Ezra 9 indicates that there were cases of divorce to prevent Israel from apostatizing through marriage to pagan idolaters. 

Divorce may be unavoidable on a case-by-case basis. Especially in the case of Nabal, there is no other choice but to live out the days of his life in miserable conditions due to physical and mental neglect, which is a criminal act of confinement rather than a marriage, and is subject to judgment by the Yahwah. In Luke 6:4, Jesus responded to the Pharisees who accused His disciples of breaking the law by picking ears of wheat and eating them on the Sabbath. Did not King David go into the temple and take the special bread offered to the Lord and eat it? This was against the law, but he shared it not only with himself but also with his servants. In chapter 13:10-17, he heals a bent woman on the Sabbath, to which she replies, “No, it is you who are hypocritical.. How can you say that you do not work on the Sabbath? Even on the Sabbath day, do you not take the cattle out of the shed and bring them to drink water? 16I have now set free a Jewish woman who had been in bondage to Satan for eighteen years. What is wrong with that, just because it happened to be the Sabbath?”

In other words, in the case of "against the law," He said to put human life first. To be stubborn, to stay married to the worst of the worst, to live under house arrest all the time, and to reduce life is not consistent with the words of Jesus.

1 Timothy 5:8 But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

As this scripture states, if a person is capable of working but drinks during the day and neglects his/her mind and body, then the marriage is over. Even if you live with such a person by overprotecting and spoiling them, it is only a matter of time before God will finally judge and erase the offender completely on the Day of Judgment, and your marriage will come to an end. 

Is it okay to remarry?

This also confirms Deuteronomy 24:1-4, which says that if the first husband divorced the woman, she should not be reinstated. There is no specific binding on the woman's side not to remarry, and it says she can remarry, so it would be acceptable for her to remarry someone other than the first husband.

In Hosea 3, YAHUWAH commands Hosea to receive back his adulterous wife. The point is that there are times when even violations of the Torah are acceptable. People with rigid minds may think that they cannot leave their husbands or remarry after divorce, even if they are abused and do not receive a living wage, but they should keep in mind that there are flexible options available and that the atonement of Christ can cover for their mistakes.

1 Corinthians 7:1 Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2 Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. 3 Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. 5 Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6 But I say this as a concession, not as a commandment. 7 For I wish that all men were even as I myself. But each one has his own gift from God, one in this manner and another in that. 8 But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; 9 but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion. 10 Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. 11 But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife.

As this scripture states, we can see that the proper activity of husband and wife is established when both the man and the woman share their body and soul. We cannot be "reconciled" with those who ignore this law and do not change their neglect of body and soul, so they will be persecutors, and as God teaches us above to "leave the persecutor," they could be the cause of divorce and therefore will not be condemned for it. But since the Corinthians were immoral people and even had relationships with their in-laws, Paul sternly advised them, "Don't divorce easily, don't reconcile and don't leave your spouses, and if you can't do it and can't control yourself because of your sexual appetite, you will fail again, so don't get married!" He advised that type of person not to get married again.

It is obvious that even if one lives in a marriage with an irreconcilable partner who verbally abuses or physically and mentally neglects his wife, the man will be judged and extinguished like Nabal for breaking the law of “love your neighbor” on the day of God's judgment, and only the wife will be spared and the marriage will end.

It is not a sin to quickly leave the abuser in body and soul and remarry. It is just that Paul's words emphasize the need to be very careful with those who are sexually active like the Corinthian church.